May 6, 2024
Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves

Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves

Building base jump in Shanghai.
Building base jump in Shanghai.

No one likes the feeling of being lost. Like utterly, truly, lost. And we fight it like crazy. It’s why people hire life coaches.

I’ve been hearing this a lot lately, that the source of their pain is this feeling of being “lost.”

“I just don’t know what I want to do in my life,” or “I don’t know what my purpose is.”

And I believe that this isn’t true. I believe that we’re never truly lost. We all know, deep inside what we want, what we’re meant for. It might not come through in details or super specifically, but we all know. We have a feeling. Deep down, and it’s always been there. The problem is that it’s scary. Or we don’t know how to make it happen. Or it seems so impossible. Or we have no clue how to make money at it. So instead of really dealing with those feelings, we become “confused” and we feel “lost.”

I think feeling “lost” is a good thing. It means that whatever we’re feeling right now and thinking about right now is really close to the thing we’re supposed to be doing. Our minds or bodies or consciousness or whatever is trying to give us information. It’s saying…yes…that thing you’re struggling with and thinking about IS the thing you should do.

So I know it’s uncomfortable, in these times. You probably hate it and want to stop feeling lost already. But there is wisdom here, and if you listen, you’ll find exactly what you’re looking for.

Photo by: The Internet. Some of the text borrowed by: Sally.

Written by
Sean Kjetil Nordbo
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